I’m back first and foremost I apologize for my absence and got married and had a baby.
Now to the nitty-gritty.
Since my last post I have notice no changes in my beloved city. I know Sharpe James is going to prison Marion Bolden is leaving but nothing positive. Our education system is still lacking. Crime is still a blight on our fair people and poverty and ignorance is at an all time high. I pondered this as a new parent what is the problem? Then it struck me EUREEKA.
Parenting the parents don’t parent anymore and I wanted to exam some reasons.
Reason 1. Ignorance- I know ignorance can be blamed on any issue but this is a different kind of ignorance. This is the kind of ignorance when you doubt the power you have over society. Every parent who reads this has the ability to change the world at home. Your child that person who Loves you most, worships you, watches your every move like a hawk, and hangs on your every word. I know your think “Junebug don’t never listen to me” correction. You assume they don’t listen but they stop when you stop. When you stop caring they stop listening and even then it’s hard for them. When you stop speaking to them and start speaking at them they stop listening. Your children need you, love you and only have you. Why not exploit that to the fullest. There are no dumb children just unconcerned parents. As a parent take pride in your children as a person take pride in yourself. I know people say well how do I do that. “I have no job I’m a single parent on welfare living i the projects”. To that I say you only go as far as you want to go. I know there is a stigma and a mantra if you will against us. Listen here parents don’t wait for your child to get you out the hood get them out first. It’s hard to find a job that can do that when you lack education. We have to use the resources at our disposal they take section 8 in Hillside just like they do in Newark. Just remember that hard work you put into getting your child to a better situation is contagious. If you want your son(s) or daughter(s) to get a better life lay the foundation. It is not as hard as it sounds.
Reason 2. Successful Blindness- Another problem we face as parents when it comes to motivating our children is, that not only have they not seen people make it from our neighborhoods neither have we.It has been along time since Cochise from Cooley High and Ricky from Boys in the Hood were killed. The unfortunate thing is it happens so often. So many of our classmates and top people in our classes as a child turn back to their “cracky ways” it’s pathetic. This is why we must show the light and children are cruel. You didn’t graduate high school why should I? It’s at this point ere the child needs to be reminded of how hard life and your fist are(allegedly) . We have so few positive role models who do we turn to is often the question. We must instill that here is nothing wrong with being a teacher or Guidance Counselor. I would just think of how confusing and hard school was for me and want to help someone through this situation.As parents we’re human so they’re may be a chuckle at someone for doing a job perceived to be demeaning. Yet as long as that person can support themselves and is happy with there lives they should be applauded and not lauded.
Yet, I do not have all the answers. I just want to conclude I’m glad to be writing again at the Daily Newarker. Also remember parents no matter what the song said the first is not a holiday. You want to strive for a life where the first is when your kids know the bills are due. No child should have to worry about eating or having food on the 22nd of a month. I know it is easier said then done but, if you need assistance then allow it to assist you to your next plateau.Trust me when I say with out it I probably wouldn’t have survived those thousands of hungry nights as a child.
“ Th Pursuit Of Perfection Is Ignorance The Pursuit Of Destiny Is Inevitable.”